7 Steps to Reset the Inner Thermostat
That's Been Holding You Back
Did you know that you have a “setpoint” or internal thermostat that is regulating every aspect of your life: your level of success, your level of enjoyment of life, and your ability to achieve what you want?
According to Wikipedia, a setpoint is “the desired process output
that an automatic control system will aim to reach.
For example, a boiler might have a temperature setpoint,
that is the temperature the control system aims to attain.”
Let’s look a little bit closer at that definition.
First, what does “desired process output” mean?
Your desired process output is the predetermined outcome or result (defined as highly desirable) that your own inner thermostat is programmed to recreate in your life, over and over and over again.
So if one of your desired process outputs is set at “fill your office and home with stuff that you never let go of” (even though you never consciously made that decision and may not even be aware of that program running in the background of your life), that’s the outcome that you will naturally return to again and again.
In spite of every conscious effort you make to let go of the stuff.
In case you’re wondering, most of your current setpoints were programmed before you were six years old, learned from the people around you, your perceptions, your interpretations, and the events in your life.
Second, there’s that “automatic control system” thing.
The automatic control system means that you are not consciously controlling it. You cannot change your inner thermostat by simply thinking about it or using willpower. It’s automatic and happens without you making one single decision.
It is like an MP3 player running in the background with a pre-determined playlist of music. Even if you recognize the song that is playing and know the words by heart, have you ever tried to change the words on a song by simply talking back to it?
Doesn’t work, right?
So you have this automatic thermostat that has a preprogrammed outcome. For any area of your life or business that isn’t turning out the way you’d like (despite all of your efforts), you have simply bumped into your personal setpoint or thermostat.
You might make improvements in one area, and then find yourself sabotaging yourself in another so that you return to your preprogrammed level (a brilliant technique used by our inner thermostat to ensure we stay within our comfort zone, by the way).
But what if the preprogrammed outcome of your inner thermostat isn’t what you want?
We’ve already said that simply thinking about it won’t help. Talking back to it won’t help either. Using willpower isn’t going to work. (If any of those techniques worked, you would have resolved it long ago.)
So how do you reset your inner thermostat?
EFT (or tapping) is my tool of choice that can reach the part of you that is not accessible through consciousness alone.
According to The Tapping Solution, “What tapping does, with amazing efficiency, is halt the fight-or-flight response and reprogram the brain and body to act- and react- differently.”
7 highly effective and powerful ways to reset your inner thermostat:
1. EXPAND YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Once you notice a pattern in your life, you can use EFT to directly expand your comfort zone in that area. For example, if the idea of marketing and selling leaves you cold (yet you have a deep passion for the work you are doing and want to share it with more people), you can use EFT to move beyond your current comfort zone.
2. UNCOVER ANY HIDDEN “PENALTIES” FOR PERFORMING AT YOUR PERSONAL BEST
You may discover that you have unexpected concerns about reaching your next level of results, like outshining your best friend or losing your peer group. EFT can be used to dissolve the hidden penalties, one by one.
3. BANISH YOUR GHOSTS FROM THE PAST
We all have past events, failures, and experiences that still bring up negative emotions, regrets, or upsets (and hold our inner thermostat in place). You can use EFT to systematically identify and release these emotions, as well as the limiting beliefs that may have developed at the time of the event.
4. UNEARTH ANY “UPSIDES” OR BENEFITS OF KEEPING THINGS THE SAME
You may be surprised to discover that there are some hidden benefits to keeping things the same, even if you consciously wish to improve. For example, you may get a lot of support or compassion based on your current situation and unconsciously don’t want that to change.
5. RELEASE THE ANXIETY, TENSION, OR STRESS ASSOCIATED WITH THE DESIRED OUTCOME
When you focus on an outcome that you desire, like doing more public speaking or offering your first big live event, you can use EFT on the sweaty palms, pounding heart, anxiety, and any other reactions or emotions that come up.
6. UNCOVER YOUR TAIL-ENDERS
A tail-ender is a term in EFT used to describe those “yeah, but…” reactions when you express a goal or desire you want. For example, if you want to double your revenue and set a goal to bring in a specific dollar amount, listen for the voices in your head that tell you it’s impossible.
You might discover thoughts like, “but I’d have to work twice as hard” or “who am I kidding?” or “no way!” All of these are tail-enders and can be tapped away with EFT.
7. EXPOSE CORE BELIEFS THAT ARE NOT SERVING YOU
In EFT, we call core beliefs the “writings on your walls.” The five biggies are:
- If I don’t do it right, people either won’t like me, they’ll make fun of me, they’ll be jealous of me, they’ll exclude me, or they’ll hurt me.
- If I fail, something bad will happen.
- If I succeed, something bad will happen.
- I’m afraid of what might happen in the future.
- I don’t want to, and you can’t make me!
EFT and my favorite related technique, Matrix Reimprinting, are great at uncovering and resolving core beliefs that are holding you back.
So by doing a bit of detective work and using EFT on what you uncover, you can expand (even blow the lid off) your current inner thermostat.
Can you do this on your own? Yes.
Is it easier and faster to have a guide when you're clearing core beliefs? Definitely.
If easier and faster sounds good to you, schedule a complimentary discovery session and we'll see if we're a fit for each other.