Handle The Little Details

As many of you know, my husband and I have been doing major renovating and remodeling of our 30-year-old home over the last few years. 

In fact, at times, we wonder if it would have been easier to just bulldoze the house and start from scratch!

Lately, I've been feeling a vague sense of unease and of being behind on everything, and I couldn't put my finger on why that was exactly. 

Last week, it hit me. 

I'm experiencing a sense of overwhelm and frustration because we've started so many projects, and many of them are still unfinished. Because we have so much we still want to get done, we get all excited and start the next project, without doing those last final touches on the previous project that would mean it was 100% complete.

So I immediately made a list of all the things that need that last little 'ooomph' to finish the project, and was shocked to see the list top 140 items! Most were small, yes, but the fact is that we have a lot of little details to handle. 

From a coaching perspective, anything unfinished in your life is a huge drain on your energy, whether it is a light bulb that has been burned out on your front porch for 6 months, or a conversation you need to have with your surly boss that you've been avoiding.

All of these unfinished details have not gone away, as much as your conscious mind might attempt to ignore or hide them from you. 

They are all still there, like a dog that's frantically barking at the top of his lungs in the backyard while you're welcoming guests at the front door. 

The noise is distracting, and takes away from what you'd prefer to be doing. 

As with my list of 140 items (gulp!) for my house, you can create a similar list of items that are to be resolved in your life. 

Making the list itself is a great start; at this point, you don't even need to do anything with all of the items. 

In fact, you might not even be sure how to handle some of them. 

That's perfectly OK. 

One way is to start with the easiest things (that's what I'm doing with my house list). 

Choose an item on your list that you can handle today, and just handle it. Have the conversation. Make the decision. Replace the burned-out light bulb, so to speak. 

Watch what happens to your energy level when you start to tackle the unfinished and incomplete things in your life. And once you've handled some of the smaller items, you may find that you're ready to tackle some of the bigger ones. 

Again, here are the steps:


  1. Make a list of all the things that are incomplete or unfinished (and for those of you who are ready to take this up a notch, create a list for all aspects of your life - work, home, car, relationships, health, etc.).
  2. Start working on the items on your list. Start wherever you want, just choose something.
  3. Keep going until you have handled all the items. It may take a month or it may take a year or more - either way, you can do it.

Enjoy all your new energy and use it to do something you love!