What Are You Tolerating?
"One way to begin seeking order within
is to come to grips with what drives you crazy
but what you've been too distracted to do anything about."
Sarah Ban Breathnach
What in your life is driving you crazy?
Do you have stacks of paperwork on your desk that you keep meaning to file?
Do you have a pile of clothes to take to the dry-cleaners that somehow doesn't seem to get there?
Do you gossip with your co-workers, and then regret it?
You are tolerating all of these things - they don't seem that important, but they have a huge impact on your life by draining your available energy.
And having an entire list of tolerations, as most of us do, means that a lot of your time and energy is spend worrying about, complaining about, or being irritated by an overload of small things.
And that takes time and energy away from the wonderful things in your life that are already there, or that could be there if you weren't distracted by all the "small stuff".
Being aware of the existence of tolerations is the first step. You don't even need to know how to resolve them, as long as you acknowledge that they do exist.
The next step is to resolve the ones you can...and allow time for your subconscious mind to work on the tougher ones. You'd be surprised at how creative you can be when you let your subconscious take over! You know, when you come up with something brilliant while you're taking a shower or driving to work?
Eliminating what you're tolerating will have an enormous impact on your energy level...but don't take my word for it. Take action and see for yourself!
Write down 5 things at work you're tolerating (don't get along with co-worker, wrong line of work, low pay, etc.). Writing down your tolerations is extremely important!
Write down 5 things at home you're tolerating (burned out light bulb, carpet needs cleaning, wardrobe could use updating, etc.).
Write down 5 things with your family/friends that you're tolerating (friends who show up late, family that doesn't support you, kids who don't clean their room, etc.).
Handle 5 tolerations this week.
Continue to add to your list of tolerations. Most people have 70-100 things they're currently tolerating. Each time you think of something new, add it to your list.
Commit to handling one toleration per day.
Enlist the support of a friend, family member, or coach who will keep you on track and offer suggestions when you need help.
Smile, because you're designing a new life for yourself!